Values, Judgement and Empowerment

Every single one of us has the power to make a difference to other people, thereby changing our world. In every second, we have this power, whether we see it or not.

I try to use this power for good. I don’t always succeed, but more often than not, I think I might.

I’m a little addicted to social media when I have free time. I read a lot of articles and a lot of posts. I love reading the comments. However, sometimes they also challenge me. People can be very aggressive and very unthinking in their responses (yes, I mean unthinking instead of unthoughtful). I try to think carefully before I respond; sometimes I initially misinterpret the intent of a comment. If I responded without thinking, I could cause pain to someone by minimising them. I do not like doing this to other people.

I think we should all be a little more measured in our comments. And, in our thoughts and actions beyond the internet.

Something I have been practising learning since Uluru is my need to bash people with healing strategies. One of my core values is healing and the belief that we all should be striving to be the best we can be by healing what isn’t right within us. As a result, if you tell me something, I’ll go into Miss Fix-It mode and start healing you.

I am learning and trying to remember that sometimes, just sometimes lol, people don’t want a solution or pathway out, they just want to be heard. I am also learning that not everyone wants to be healed or is ready to start the process. I struggle with this too. It works against my values. But, I’m learning.

My values, upon last assessment, encompass healing/empowerment, learning and spirituality, and developing and strengthening my business practice.

By spending more time in the areas of my values, I am finding greater happiness and fulfilment in my life. They have also enabled and empowered me to learn better communication with others because I am more conscious of how my values impact my relationships with others.

We are not all the same. Understanding our differences empowers stronger relationships, fosters inner peace, and enables happiness. Understanding why we respond in certain ways enables us to be better friends and citizens, less judgemental and more open. In turn, this broadens our world and our experiences. Our lives and our selves become richer.

And, this can only be a good thing.

I worked my values out from the link below, using the worksheets that Peter has posted. It is something you might choose to do over the next couple of days.

All of the instructions are there and it is easy to do:

The Importance of Context 

We all have moments when we judge without thinking. Well, you might not but definitely do. Generally on small stupid things for me. The big things I think about a bit more. 

Especially about the context. 

Like, yesterday there was a series of fights on the road behind my school in the evening. The media instantly used our school as the selling point, strongly implying that in some way our school, and all of its students and staff were responsible. Shaking my head, still in disbelief. 

I cannot stop judging the media, harassing kids as they walked through the gates this morning. No responsibility accepted for printing non factual information, never let the facts get in the way of a good story. Pfft. 

However, their context is that they need to satisfy the media bureaucracy and the truth rarely makes as good a story. 

Moving on Tina (my anger and frustration is still palpable). 

The events of the last twenty four hours have really impressed upon me the importance of understanding context. It is easy to judge from the surface. But it is infinitely more important to understand, and when understanding happens, judgement can’t. I think this could be the way to peace. 

It has been for me. 

Throughout my childhood I witnessed a lot of behaviour from damaged people. It impacted deeply. To heal I needed to discover the context behind the damage, and once I did, I was able to forgive (it was a process). 

I am fiercely protective of Campbelltown, my school, that community and my kids. I dislike when people not from the area judge it mercilessly. Ignorance in this case is not bliss, it’s just ignorance. And the worst kind. It implies that there are layers of society, and ultimately, the only difference comes down to how well we hide the damage and broken souls that inhabit society. 

I like that it isn’t hidden in Campbelltown. As Dr Phil says, you can’t fix what you don’t acknowledge. We own our damage and we work tirelessly to heal the community from it. And as a result, we are better for it. 

We were attacked unjustifiably by the media which has caused a negative perception in the community. All I ask is that we all, always, try to understand the context. 
PS. I apologise for the scattered nature of this post. Probably need to process the day more.